Shoot Shooties

Does anyone have the Timehop App on their phone? It’s pretty cool: it access your social media and photos on your phone to show you what statuses you posted and pictures you took/posted a year ago. Some days it makes me laugh, some pretty sad at how pathetic things were, some I think oh I need to bring that outfit back, and sometimes I think man, I remember feeling so good about my outfit that day and it is not cute!

A year ago my body was about 20 pounds heavier and I was just coming to learn what my style was, thanks in part to this blog and reading all of your blogs. As I continue losing weight and working on being more mindful with my purchases I have come to really accept the fact that there are some styles that I’ll never be able to pull off (and I’m starting to wonder if my beloved pencil pants dream is one of them). One style I have known for a while just doesn’t work for me is peep-toe shoes. Weird, right? Anytime I have tried on peep-toe shoes they instantly hurt my feet. I have tried on so many different kinds, flats, boots, heels, wedges, and none of them work. Which is really a shame because I love how they transform an outfit.

So when I keep seeing these adorable boots (or shooties I think we’re supposed to call them?) pop up everywhere I get really jealous. I think they turn an outfit into a cool, chic, effortless look. But it’s okay that I can’t wear them because another style I just don’t jive with? Heels. It’s true. At 5’8″ I’m just more comfortable in flats, both because of my height (I seriously live in a pocket of short people) and the fact that they are just more comfortable for my back and knees.

So tromp on, my peep-toe-shootie wearing friends. I’m jealous.

Can you tell which ones are the most expensive?

One is $940, one $79.98, and one $34.99.
Left, Middle, Right

We’re officially official

The other night Ken and I were out to dinner (at Vault in Yardley, PA if you were curious) and we started talking about what our dating anniversary is. I never know if you’re supposed to make it your first date or the date you became official. If people even become official anymore. Well, we did, which I learned that night he was never sure of.

(we still suck at remembering to take pictures together)

We met sometime in the winter of 2013 when I went over my friend Brynn’s house before heading out downtown. Her boyfriend (now husband), Kevin, had just moved in and his friend, Ken, was over. Brynn was finishing dinner before we left so all four of us were sitting around the table chatting and when it came time to leave, I asked if they were coming. On my end, sparks didn’t fly. I have no idea what happened on his end but he has said he was interested but it was clear I wasn’t. Hahaha. I was a pretty different person then: I had been laid off a few months before, just started the job I have now, and transitioning to moving back home with my parents. I was pretty miserable, but trying to make the best of things. And I really was not in the right place to consider dating anyone so I really wasn’t looking at Ken that way. So I’m glad we didn’t start anything then because I’m rather positive I would have been an awful girlfriend (and now I’m an amazing girlfriend).

We saw each other off and on after that at various events at Brynn’s house. More so after he moved in (she rents out 3 bedrooms) sometime that summer. We always halfway flirted, but sparks still weren’t there for me. I knew Brynn and Kevin were pushing me to go out with him, but Ken didn’t make a move. Apparently he is a slow mover.

We hadn’t seen each other at all until New Years Eve when I was really really sick. I even brought my own box of tissues to the bar… pathetic. Ken later told me that he stopped liking me at one of Brynn’s picnics… I have no idea why and I really don’t want to know why because then I’ll get all self-conscious. My bet is it was a time I was acting kind of bitchy and snarky. Anyway, he apparently started liking me again that NYE. I have to say that bodes well for our future since I was seriously disgustingly sick that night. About a week later I went over Brynn’s for a game night and I supposedly threw myself at Ken. That’s what he likes to say since I sat down right next to him on the couch when there were tons of other seats available. I don’t deny this. We met a few times for drinks after that and went on what I consider our first official date on February 8.

This brings up another question: what do you consider your first date with someone?  I consider it February 8 because that was the first time we dressed nicely and he drove me to a nice place for dinner. The other times we met at a bar near me after work and just had drinks (and made out a little in the car… sssh). Once we agreed that the official first date was February 8 we then had to decide the anniversary date and I said it could be the night he very sweetly asked if I would be his girlfriend. And get this. He admitted he was always confused about that because I never answered.

Um, scuse me?

I surely did! He even repeated my “yes” back at me. So apparently he has gone around confused (not really, just my exaggeration) for the past 6 months. And so we officially became official on August 23.

Not really ;-) We still consider it to be February 26. And have agreed the anniversary date is February 8.

What do you consider your dating anniversary? Any confusion stories?

 

On Building a Wardrobe: My Mini Capsule

A few weeks ago I wrote a post On Building a Wardrobe and told you I was going to start a capsule wardrobe in August to test the waters for Fall. I’m happy to report it has gone swimmingly. Be sure to check out yesterday’s post discussing the Fall Capsule Wardrobe linkup with Anne.

Seriously.

I loosely followed Caroline’s guidelines and did what was right for me right now. Here is my process:

The Process

1. Caroline said to empty everything out of your closet and so I did. Honestly, I think this is the most important step. I am no stranger to paring down my closet and taking things out I don’t wear, but holy crap. What a difference when you empty it out. For example: I started with my dresses. If you had asked me to guess how many I had I would have said about 20-25. I had 36. 36. Now granted, a few of them were fancier dresses I got for fancier occasions. And I’ve worn some of them, but some I haven’t. And some of those nicer dresses are a size or two smaller than what I currently wear and I’m not ready to get rid of those yet because I quite like them and their size is a realistic size for me. So after going through my dresses I went down to 13 (the picture below lies a little if you read the comments… I had one dress hanging in another section I forgot I had and I’m keeping it) for the summer, 7 for the next seasons, and 2 to hopefully fit into again.

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I pulled each section of my closet out seperately. That was more workable for me than pulling every single thing out at once. It would have been a mess and that would have stressed me out. So after the dresses I did long sleeves, short sleeves, and sleeveless tops. We’ve had an unseasonably cool summer this year so I kept out some long sleeve shirts and opted not to go through my cardigans/blazers right now.

2. Sorting the items. Things I knew were absolutely going to work for August were hung on the back of my closet door right away. Items I wasn’t too sure about went into one pile, things for a future season were another pile, things that are still in excellent condition that are too small and it is realistic for me to fit into in the future made a different pile, and donate/sell items were the last pile. Things that were definitely not going back in the closet for August were immediately taken off the hanger, folded, and put in it’s appropriate pile so I wouldn’t be distracted.

3. Looking for a theme. In other posts on Caroline’s blog she discusses the importance of having a style for each capsule wardrobe so that the items go together and it is easier to come up with outfits. At first I was thinking this wouldn’t work for me because I enjoy quite a few different styles. But as I put my absolute pieces back in the closet I did start to see a theme for August and used that to decide on my maybe pile. So even though you might think you don’t have a set style or want to have one, you might find that you too see a common theme. Also, my summer theme is COMPLETELY different than the theme I see for Fall and that’s part of the fun!

4. 37 pieces. Part of Caroline’s capsule wardrobe is to pare it down to only 37 pieces. That wasn’t going to work for me. First, I don’t work from home like she does and so I do need more than one “wardrobe.” Yes, a lot of my clothes overlap, I purposely look for things that do, but I am definitely not going to wear these jeans to work and I probably won’t wear this skirt casually. So I actually didn’t limit myself to a certain number for August. I’d like to come up with a good number for Fall and I’m using this month to try and determine that workable number for me.

The Result

After going through my own version of Caroline’s process I ended up with a pretty cohesive August capsule wardrobe. For August there is a definite loose, fun, colorful theme. Colors that stand out are pink, blue, and white. I stick with loose fitting tops in light fabrics and I tend to gravitate towards patterns.

Thoughts so Far

I’m glad I decided to try out the capsule wardrobe by starting in August. I have learned that less is definitely more when it comes to your closet. I know basically everything that’s in there now and I spend less time staring at my closet because there is less to choose from. Everything in my closet excites me right now and I think I’ll be even more excited when I switch over to the Fall wardrobe because everything will be “new” (as in, not every piece will be actually brand new just bought, but I won’t have seen it for a while!). I have learned that I really love sleeveless tops (actually, I already knew this but it was just reiterated). It’s what I currently have the most of in my closet and I’ll probably carry some of them over to future seasons because I like layering them.

I also learned that I lack when it comes to short sleeve tops. Most of mine are tshirts and while I do like tshirts, I don’t really love wearing them to work with jeans. It feels just a little too casual to me. So for a future summer capsule wardrobe I’d like to work on more work appropriate short sleeve tops.

This summer I am wearing shorts more than I usually do which is funny since it has been colder this summer. I think I’m just more comfortable with my body than I was previously. But I have learned that my favorite way to wear shorts is with a long sleeve shirt or a light sweater. I don’t really like wearing them with sleeveless or short sleeves and I wonder if it is because 1) I feel too exposed that way or 2) it’s too casual for me. I’m not a terribly casual dresser as Ken pointed out when he told me my mint ballet flats, pink shorts, and black and white light sweater outfit was pretty fancy for a backyard bbq.

I used to have a lot of variety when it came to my shoes and now I really don’t. I miss the variety. I think it was because I started to become really conscious of my spending habits so where I used to feel totally fine spending money on shoes and purses, I no longer do. It’s also because previously I hated buying new clothes for myself because I didn’t like my size but shoes and purses always fit. Anyway, I am not buying anymore “summer” shoes but I am looking for what I need for the fall. I’m a flats kind of girl so I am keeping an eye out for black shiny leather pointed toe, plain cognac, another color in shiny leather (these are my favorite kinds of shoes and I have mint, blue, red, and a mustard that needs updating), and navy pointed toe. I am also looking for nude wedges (I like to have shiny nude and shiny black wedges) and any boots I might like.

Although I don’t have a firm number for how many pieces I want in my fall capsule, I know 37 won’t work for me. By doing a mini capsule in August I have learned that I definitely don’t need as many clothes as I thought. I reach for the same few pieces over and over again, especially when it comes to tops. However, fall is the season of layers and that is one of my themes so I know I will want more pieces in the Fall than I did in August. Make sense?

Getting Ready for Fall

It’s been a few weeks since I did all of that but my piles of clothes are still sitting on my bedroom floor much to my Mother’s dismay. I need to get them put away but having them in plain sight on the floor actually keeps me mindful of my fall capsule. When I went crazy during Loft’s friends and family sale I really limited myself to items that fit the theme starting to emerge for fall. It actually really really helped with my shopping so I can definitely see why Caroline says to come up with a style. So far the style emerging for fall is navy, burgundy, white (always with the white), brown, plaid, layers. I don’t foresee as many different patterns in fall as I had in august. Layers will be huge in the fall so I’m really excited for that.

If you’re thinking about taking on a similar project or just want ideas on how to have a wardrobe that works better for you I definitely suggest looking over Caroline’s blog and working through her free wardrobe planner. I think the most important thing, and one you’ll see Caroline say, is to make this project work for you. I really don’t feel 37 pieces is going to work for me, so I will do more. I will also probably have two capsule wardrobes with some overlapping: work and play. Caroline’s fall wardrobe starts in October, which works for her where she lives, but here in the Northeast we need to start in September (and I’d like to admit here I’m already sad about saying buhbye to some of my summer clothes). One thing I suggest you absolutely not compromise on is emptying out your closet. Just do it. Don’t try to go through your closet with everything hanging up. Either empty the entire thing or do what I did and go through it section by section.

This week Anne and I are sharing some inspiration images that we’re using to help create our fall capsule. After that we want to see your capsules! This is a loose link up, we want you to share what you want to share! Whether that be a full-on strict capsule, a loose capsule, a multi-wardrobe capsule, a 30×30 remix, whatever! The point of the link up is to encourage one another as we work towards a more workable, financially responsible (at least for me) wardrobe.

Then each month we’ll check in and share how it’s going and show off some of our outfits. Don’t worry if you can’t get daily outfit shots! You can always do floor outfits or just talk about what you wore.

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So here’s the link up schedule:
September 2 – your capsule
September 30 – show off some capsule outfits!
October 28 – capsule outfits round 2
November 25 – capsule outfits round 3

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